The Question:
Is Safe Harbor Agreement therapy typical in a disputed custody matter? It seems a bit suspicious.
RJ Says:
Safe Harbor therapy can be a helpful tool—when the goal is healing, not litigation. In my experience, this type of therapeutic agreement is most effective when both parents are genuinely working to support the child, rather than trying to gain a legal advantage.
The benefit of Safe Harbor therapy is that it allows everyone to engage more openly in the therapeutic process. Parents are often more willing to participate when they’re not concerned that their words will later be quoted in court. The therapist can also prioritize the child’s emotional needs, rather than act as a neutral evaluator preparing for potential testimony.
In this setting:
Parents may feel less anxious about being judged or scrutinized
The child may receive more focused emotional support
The therapist can build trust with all parties, rather than gather evidence
However, if your case requires documentation, reports, or testimony in court, Safe Harbor therapy may not be appropriate. This type of agreement usually means that what happens in therapy stays in therapy—it’s not intended to become part of the litigation process.
If you’re unsure whether Safe Harbor therapy is right for your situation, or whether the other parent’s motives are genuine, it’s worth discussing your legal options.
Our office offers free half-hour consultations where we can help you assess whether this approach supports your legal and personal goals. Call (602) 256-7575 to schedule your consultation today.